The Collector: Fragments Of A Life


Collecting amounts to being capable of living of one’s past. But he rejects regret, that other form of hope. He is incapable of looking at portraits.
Albert Camus

Where does a collector belong in society these days? The kind of person who stores experience, who is convulsed with every slight, racked by a solitude that can only come from being alone, really alone. Even at work.

I’ve had a few jobs in my time. A collection of hours stored up in the bank, because that’s all it ever was in the end. I have never achieved anything in any job I’ve ever had. I thought that’s what happened when you grew up, I thought you ‘found a career’ or ‘settled down’. It was only when I was older that I realised that things never happen in the way you were told they would. I was a late developer. Not any more though, I think I’ve developed too much now, people sense it and are frightened. I feel them shrink from me.

I don’t know if I’m dreaming. Maybe its me that shrinks from others. I can’t deny it, but I don’t know when it first happened, when people started to scare me. This is the crux of the matter: I realise that if there is anything important in human existence (and I’m just not sure that there is) then it will be human relationships. This is because there are only two realms in which we exist, the first is within our own subjectivity, the second is within the environment of the other, the ‘objective’. We see our own person through another, we project our own self onto the other and we see the reflection. It can be said that in looking at someone else you see only yourself.

That tree is the other, that brick house is the other, the man walking down the street before me projects his life forwards and mine follows. I have found recently that I am lost in the tail of life, or more often drowning in the face of it all. I cannot see myself in anyone else any more. And I am still no closer to the answer to my question: who is shrinking from whom? In a decent society the individual should be endowed with responsibility, this should be sovereign along with whatever ‘freedom’ circumstances dictate. Because this freedom we have no matter what. Without responsibility the freedom we do have is tainted. Wider society has failed but I must look to myself, to my own responsibility.

I can remember a time maybe seven or eight years ago when I wasn’t nervous in doing anything, especially talking to people. On reflection life drifted aimlessly past, and it wasn’t that I didn’t have any plans either. If they did come to fruition then it was slowly. And even as I write now I can see that that was the problem, it was a kind of inability to act. I always did what I had to in life but over the years it became harder and in the end I sometimes wouldn’t do the most basic of tasks. I would stay in bed all day. Still do sometimes. But before this I remember having a job on the phone all day, it wasn’t up to much but it didn’t bother me at the start. Back then it was still almost novel to work in a call centre and it wasn’t always that busy. I never intended to stay in the job and I didn’t when I left to go to college. I couldn’t finish college and eventually found myself back at another call centre taking clothes orders from customers. People are ‘customers’ now.

Things were different, life didn’t drift aimlessly past any more, time weighed me down, I had become increasingly shy and on top of all that the calls kept coming. I guess this was the time I started collecting, bringing together the scattered episodes of my life, collecting unseen moments out on the streets or in the pubs. I was collecting orders but it turns out I was also collecting bitter memories. I was caught in a vicious circle, becoming isolated and at the same time preempting my self-conscious attitude towards others. I would mumble hello looking at your forehead or I wouldn’t even look at you at all.

Why? I don’t know, I have to think about it.

A child needs confidence; but I think this comes from the innocence (ignorance?) of young life. I’m certainly not a child any more but I was once.

But all of this is tosh. I have a secret to divulge, I’m sitting on it now. It all started for real during my second foray into call centres. I realised that I’ve never talked to so many people before, everybody sounds the same. Call after call, people were phoning me, at least I liked to think so, but I was so impatient with them. I hid it well until I exploded. I mean people phoning up and not knowing what to do; god, who are these people? Who buys clothes over the phone anyway? How do you know if the fucking things fit? You know the colours aren’t the same as they are in the catalogue and the sizes are ‘generous’, not the sizes stated in the catalogue? Who’s fooling who?

One day I decided to ask a customer these questions. I got carried away with it all, I lost myself in my fury. I didn’t notice that she had hung up, I didn’t notice that everyone was looking at me (I was the centre of attention and I didn’t even know it). I walked out and never returned.

But I was stuck for something, I was also stuck for a job. What could I handle? That was when I became a collector for real and I was still with catalogues, dropping them off, picking them up, walking the streets, knocking on doors. Granted I am the butt of the capitalist joke but what the hell, I am now in the open air. I feel different now, maybe I got too much air but something happened up there, if you know what I mean. Solitude can do strange things to a person but when you mix that with insignificant meetings and failed interactions….well I’ve exploded. I haven’t got many sales, household goods don’t go far. “Earn so much an hour” the advert said; again I ask the question, who’s kidding who? Anyway I’ve had a small look into other people’s lives and it’s surprised me that I am even interested, after all I have cut myself off from social interaction. I explained all that at the start of this fragment. Or I explained that we all should have responsibility….well fuck it, I’m too weak, responsibility is a burden and I just don’t see anyone carrying it out any more.

What didn’t surprise me though, was that small glimpses were never enough. I began to plan scenarios where I could come into their lives and it became a frenzy in my head when I was ushered into someone’s kitchen while they looked for the catalogue. It was raining. On the kitchen table were the remains of a meal, a local paper, opened on a report about the death of a person who was on benefits until she was sanctioned, and some keys. I looked a long time at the keys until the man came back, a bitter looking old man, bald apart from a clump of white hair on both sides of his head, with pin-pricked blue eyes. He reminded me of someone, off the television or some politician maybe. His return with the catalogue, no order, woke me from my dream. I dreamed every night after that about those keys. It was the same every night, I would pick them up and slip them into my pocket and every time they would burn a hole in the pocket and fall onto the linoleum floor. The old man would stare at me and say nothing, just picked up the keys and threw them onto the table. I would wake up after that.

I can’t remember when this dream blurred into reality but it did because one day I did have the keys in my pocket, they didn’t burn a hole this time and the old man never saw me do it, he could never find his catalogue.

Here I am now in his house unburdening myself. I don’t remember getting here, it is late at night. But I must be here because I’m typing this on the old man’s black heavy typewriter, a Corona, it says. I know its heavy because I had to lift it when I dropped it onto the old man’s head while he was sleeping. I’m glad he was sleeping, I cannot guess at what I would have seen had I looked into his eyes. I don’t want to see nothing but the thought of seeing me chills me to the bone.

I think I’ll search his house, I need to collect new memories now, now that I’ve erased mine. God, some people can be so self-obsessed but at least I’ve done something now, at least I’ve finished the job.





Looking back I left because everyone I knew had left and I wasn’t prepared to hang around anymore. I’m someone who finds it difficult to face up to problems, someone who finds it hard to look reality straight in the face. Or maybe my reality was distorted? But there was one thing I could never run away from and that was my own existence.

It was both reckless and necessary to go on my own to America. I did it in my true fashion by giving up something that could have benefited me had I treated it right, if only I had staying power. But I’m a hopeless romantic and romantics never stay in the same place. With this in mind I decided that it was time to be on the move, to go somewhere different. Of course America wasn’t all that new to me, or so I thought. I became fascinated by the schizophrenic, even hypocritical, nature of the States. In one glance I would see great things; I would see how a person could do things that you think could only be done within a country that was fully developed, a country that you think is fair. But then you realise that there is no such place, that fairness comes down to the individual, and that what one person thinks is fair another would think unfair. America is a place that has both attributes of good and bad in explosive amounts. With an irony it was this ambiguity that I was looking for. I was thinking that once a person finds where he’s at has lost its feeling, has lost whatever it was in the first place that enticed them there, then its time to move on.

I had lost that feeling and all that was left was solitude and emptiness. Today I have visions of a distracted globe, of a disjointed people roaming the earth in search of something, searching for their goal. Happiness is a potent force.

Anyway, I was to join the masses searching for that elusive talisman that would make me whole: searching for myself and the meaning of my own existence.


So one day I found myself out taking a walk by a stream. It was a particularly cold day for the middle of September and I could remember the bruised sky leering down at me. The stream was trickling by, small currents parted by the flotsam and the garbage rooted in the shallow sandy bed. It was then that I knew I had to go away; I had a loss of faith when I looked at the familiar signs of nature surrounding me. Tall, solid trees with their thick sticky leaves that in my youth I would have used to ease the burning of a nettle rash, protruded towards the low sky. Large horse chestnuts lay abandoned around my moving feet. I was dimly aware in the back of my mind how I would search for an age as a child for chestnuts the size of these, and when I did eventually find one, would steep it in vinegar and then promptly lose it in a game of conkers through my adversity’s enviable larger conker.

But that wasn’t the name of the game anymore. I was impatient and frustrated, I wanted a new perception on a world that had gone stale, and then maybe I would begin to learn about myself. I knew that I couldn’t do it here, that what I needed was an adventure. Awfully childish, but I wanted to lose my innocence.

Sitting on the edge of the embankment I knew that the first thing that I had to do was to get a job so I could finance my trip. The stream became a little louder as a diversion in its pathway provided competition for the bubbling water, and I became aware for the first time in my life of how significant the choices you make can alter your life. Whether it be good or bad only time will tell, but, just as a stream eventually flows to an end so an individual can have an afflux of choices taking you on a winding path to its inevitable end. I became aware of my choices and that I could make them too. This thought lightened my step as I made my way home. My goal was in the future and that old chestnut of destiny guided me there through the choices I made.



A week after my sojourn by the stream I managed to get a job in a warehouse loading and unloading HGV’s. In a way this was a good job to have just before a long trip as I didn’t have to think about what I was doing, it gave me more time to get excited and plan my longer sojourn to the States.

No, it wasn’t a job that I’d want to do for a great length of time. When I was there I mixed with some people who had been there for years. In a presumptive way I felt sorry for these people and the subjects they often talked about made me shudder. But who was I to judge, if they were happy.

I was part of a number of people who the company employed for a temporary basis over the Christmas period which ran from September to late December. The majority of the temps were my age, and through them, and others, I began to consider just what this happiness is. I looked about me and eventually saw and differentiated between those who looked happy and those who just got along. It was rare to see people visually unhappy in this place, you felt as though there was a grim contentment generated by the necessity of working.

This made me think about how I would observe people when I was walking outside. Everyone’s features always seemed bland and fixed, as though, like you would put on a coat before braving the cold wind you would also arrange your face, so as to step out into the world. People today have become too afraid. I guess part of it is because nobody’s sure of the next person; when I say we are prone to hide our emotions this is magnified by our reactions in public when we see a person in obvious distress. This blatant show of emotions has varying effects on different people. Some of us, being honest, would shy away thinking that the person is disturbed, shy away because the emotion reminds us of ourselves, of being defenceless.

It was the power of these emotions and their paradoxical nature that gave me an interest in my new environment and the trip to come. Paradoxical because these emotions are what we all crave for sometimes, and the thin line between the fear and joy of these feelings is so acute a person could go quite mad. At the warehouse I found many examples of people using their emotions in different ways and in different situations. I found that, even though out on the street people hide their feelings, people would become more open in an informal environment. And when any set of people all have something in common, albeit however small, a person’s openness becomes more familiar.


At the warehouse we all had that one thing in common: the necessity of working; but I was becoming increasingly aware that this necessity was only a means to an end, that, after all, everyone is aiming for that same thing, happiness. Or contentment in their life. The first person I met was an older man in his late 30’s. He was a small stout forceful person by nature but really harmless. He was sitting in the small undecorated waiting room by the reception when I entered on the first morning. I sat down and we spoke straight away, or he did.

“Alright, mate? Bloody ‘ell this place’s a bit dire, ain’t it? Still, shit, I need a job. The wife been on at me, so I think I’ll just get the hell out and get a job, on and off the dole, you know”

And he would talk on like that for quite a while. I would not say much, only when I really had to, but he didn’t mind. It would take me a while to respond to someone at times when I didn’t feel like speaking, but I knew that I would in time. Anyway this guy couldn’t keep talking forever.

“So I said to her that most jobs are temporary at the moment, you know,” he continued, “but really I get lazy, you know, and sometimes I just like to sit around the pub, you know.”

I knew the feeling of abject listlessness. Weeks before I came to my decision to travel I had spent many afternoons in one pub or another just drinking but never really getting drunk. You need the mood and, sometimes, the right people for that.

“So you don’t get on with your wife?” I asked.

“On no, I do,” he said. “I love my wife deeply.”

This frank assertion shocked me at first, though only because I wasn’t expecting that answer. He was quite animated as he told me how much his wife was his rock and that they only argued because they are so much alike.

“This is why we met,” he said watching me from the chair opposite. “When we were young we would agree on almost everything, and when we were out I would always know how she would react before she did. She’s always disagreed ’bout that, but that was all part of the fun. I’m not too sure of what she feels these days but I still love her, I guess,” he finished as another small middle-aged man in worn grey trousers and a black bomber jacket covering a white shirt and a ruler tie came in. He was the supervisor and came to lead us to the warehouse floor.


We were led down a small narrow corridor which led to the floor. Me and Mick were assigned to Depot 1 and as we were introduced to the other people I reflected on the strange (to me, at least) relationship that Mick and his wife seemed to have. I think he was happy but at the same time I felt that he was waiting for something.

warehoue_bayThere were two other temps on my depot and about three permanent workers. The loading bay had a wide façade; number One was at the near wall close to the canteen and reception and the floor had twelve loading bays. The bays filled out into the back of the main warehouse where all the stock that was to be loaded was stored. My job at Depot 1 was to load or unload the HGV’s as required. Nothing thrilling about that and as soon as me and Mick were led round to the bay we got to work. The monotonous routine led me to forget which lane to put the numbered cubic boxes so I eased the monotony by listening to Mick talk about his wife.

A guy about my age was working next to me. He had short, cropped blonde hair and he wore a smart sports sweater. It looked brand new and he didn’t seem to mind that it was getting dirty. This was a dusty, dirty job as well as being heavy on your arms. I made a flippant comment on the filthy nature of the job.

“Yeah, these boxes are really dirty, as though they’ve been in that fucking lorry forever,” he replied. His name was Chris and he spoke in a slow manner with a lot of expletives. The swearing was not a problem, in fact par for the course in any warehouse. Anyway, when I wanted to I could swear with the best of them.

He seemed approachable enough so I asked him if he minded getting his clean sweater dirty, it wasn’t the job for wearing anything clean, really. He looked surprised as though he didn’t know what I was getting at.

“Oh, eh, well I don’t have any dirty clothes really, my mum washes them quite often.”

Chris was still living at home with his parents and during the time that I knew him, every day he came in with a clean top on, sometimes the same top as the day before but freshly washed by his mum. I got to quite like him and we got on well at the place. We would make up names for the different people who worked there, not everyone just some of the people we thought were distinguishable.

One such person who was working in the same depot as us we called Hero. He was a chubby cocky guy in his early twenties. A temp like us he would always volunteer for every job going even if he didn’t know how to do it. Me and Chris would have hours of amusement watching Hero and even encouraging him to do amazing feats of daring. He would always oblige and leap onto a mechanical fork-lift, usually in the late afternoon while we were waiting for another delivery. Me and Chris would also jump onto a fork-lift and would chase after Hero, narrowly avoiding major disasters because we kept forgetting that you had to steer in the opposite direction that you wanted to go in.

Hero was already married with a kid and another on the way. He would take any opportunity he could to help himself which was understandable considering his circumstances. Every two weeks he would disappear during an afternoon to go and sign on, then after a while he disappeared completely. We thought he had probably got a job elsewhere. Jokingly, we said he had probably applied to star in Superman.

Chris liked to do things as full as possible, while I was there he was very exuberant. It was he who started making up names for people and his yin yang with me enticed me to join in. I named Hero, though. I only knew him for three months and just before I left to go to America I heard that he had gone to prison for assault. I was surprised when I heard even though he did tell me of a fight he had been in, though not of being in court. Possibly Chris was a little bonkers.

One other person I got to know a little was a young dark-haired kid just a bit younger than me and Chris. We were all kids really, inexperienced though growing more experienced by the day. This was the reason I was doing this job, I thought. I felt that everyone here, especially the temps who were used to this kind of work and duration, seemed to drift between work and play in alternate amounts. There was no scale for these people, myself included, we hadn’t found the balance to suit our own scales.

His name was Alex, the dark-haired kid. He was frisky in nature but also had some reserve, or maybe it was satisfaction. I could never really tell in the end if he was satisfied but during the time I knew him at the warehouse he would act expansively and passionately, but never too much. He would listen intently and would be decisive in his decisions. Not that any of us had to make many decisions at work but Alex showed the potential of knowing he was right for himself. Maybe he knew his own balance.

The comparison between Chris and Alex was slight but acute in the issue of balance. Chris was always boisterous but I felt he was lucky at times and showed that maybe he was still trying to find his own limit. But essentially and maybe mostly with Alex being the youngest, we were still looking. The warehouse was a large caricature for this. At times though, I could see the confirmation in someone’s eye of being settled, it looked gruesome to me but I was locked into my own tunnel-vision, always forgetting that what suits one person may not suit another. I realise that we are all guilty of that sometimes.


Anyway four months eventually past and it was time for me to embark on my journey. I was excited and had my plane ticket and also a bus ticket for the road once there. A day or two before I left I once again took a stroll by the stream. It was early January and there was snow everywhere. This was very unusual for this city as it would be more likely to rain. But nevertheless we had four inches of snow and as I walked among the bare trees by the stream I saw how pure the snow was. It was early morning and the snow was untouched apart from my footprints, the sky was a clear blue becoming more intense towards the middle and this added to the frost and the great billows of breath around my head as I breathed. The sun was low, simmering behind me as I moved along swiftly, gloved hands deep into my warm climbing fleece, the stream trickling between partially frozen ice and great clumps of snow, by my side.

I thought about my trip and realised that amongst the excitement, at the pit of my stomach was a little dread. I reasoned it to be fear of the unknown because one is never sure of how things end up. Looking back to my youth, I didn’t win many of my conker matches, most of the big beauties I found and steeped in vinegar ended up smashed on the pathway. Once, though, I won against my conker playing nemesis, a large kid called Declan, who always had the strongest nuts.

It was a spontaneous meeting by a Chestnut tree-lined stream near to home, Declan had just won at conkers against a younger kid and was boasting. I picked up the first green spiky covered conker I came across to challenge Declan. It was a small one that I would normally ignore. I had string and a sharp nail in my pocket (always prepared!), and proceeded to pierce a hole through the middle of the conker and string it. We all cheated at conkers by hardening the nut, though this time I had a fresh nut, Declan’s was his year old hardened nut that had won countless matches. I was 10-nil down in matches and with my first hit I was 10-1 down but Declan’s conker was smashed on the floor. We both stood in silence looking at the remains. With no planning, no thinking about what was to come, I had achieved something I hadn’t done in two years, beat Declan at conkers. In reality his conker wouldn’t have lasted another hit, time had caught up with it, but it was my first experience of chance and luck.

As I went home to pack I thought about this childhood event, I thought about what this meant for an individual’s destiny. By going away I wanted to see how the individual fitted into the whole, that is, if there was even anything to fit into. I really wanted to discover who I was but, because of that, I knew meticulous planning would only construct something false. If I wanted to find myself, to achieve anything of worth I had to let spontaneity have a role in events and to let events play themselves out. You are yourself automatically.

Two days later I stepped off the plane into San Francisco.